I lost the mompetition

My dear friend Kate was who first introduced me to the term "mompetition". It's that yucky, dirty feeling of measuring up ever single detail of your kid with another kid. Measuring up your mom skills (or lack of) to another mom's skills. I say a big fat "no" to all of that. It is mompetition that makes women feel all alone in motherhood, it is what isolates us when we really should be ferociously supporting one another. When mompetition takes over no one wins. Ever.

One way I have found to fight against it is to pray for the other moms and children that I know. I especially pray for babies that were born around the time that Cana was born. When you are cheering on every move of other families and hoping the best for them, it is hard to stack yourself up next to them. Instead, you get to rejoice in their rejoicing and sometimes mourn when they are mourning. You get to be present with your friends, and respond as needed when they need some love. It is so much better than that dirty stinking mompetition trap.